|I am currently reading a book by Rebecca St, James called, “Wait For Me: rediscovering the joy of purity in romance, for the third time. In a chapter of this book titled, “What are we really waiting for,” Rebecca discusses the Bible view of marriage. “The Bible paints a true picture of marriage through the example of Jesus, who laid down His life for His bride, the Church. Jesus demonstrated the ultimate model of love and protection for husbands. As the body of Christ, we are to rest in and submit to the protection…The world’s view about relationships and marriages in all about “me, myself, ad I.” It feeds us a user mentality…It is about conditional commitment and, ultimately, complete selfishness.”
As I read this chapter, Matthew 10:39 came to mind. “If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give it up for me, you will find it.” Godly love instructs you to be selfless in your relationships (both platonic and non-platonic). It tells you to give up your rights to self and serve someone else. It tells you to look out and do for others before yourself. It tells you to give, love, and serve more than you seek to receive. Loving like this is the secret to long lasting marriages, but it is also a life principle that every Christian should be practicing with everyone, not just in marriages.
There is something so joyous and fulfilling about knowing that you have given your life completely to God through your service to others as he instructed. Jesus says that you cannot find your life until you give it up for him, and the only way to give it up is through your selfless service to “you” and “them” instead of “me” and “I”.
So I urge you today to become selfless in your marriages; put your spouse’s needs ahead of yours all the time. Become selfless in your relationships; think about you partner’s needs and feelings before doing or saying anything. In your friendships, become selfless and think about them before yourself. In your every day dealings, serve one another in love as Christ has instructed you to do through Paul in Galatians 5:13. Most of all, “For all the law is fulfilled in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” –Gal 5:14
Stay blessed and spread the word.